Hurricane Divorce

Life has a way of throwing us curve balls when we least expect them, and divorce can feel like a category-five hurricane, tearing through your world and leaving devastation in its wake. The emotional turmoil, the upheaval, and the uncertainty can knock you for a loop. When everything seems to be spiraling out of control, the most powerful action you can take is to simply be still. Embrace stillness and experience healing.

Embrace Stillness

In the chaos of a hurricane, there’s a calm at the center—the eye of the storm. Similarly, amid the emotional storm that is divorce, you need to find your own center of calm. Being still doesn’t mean doing nothing; it means creating a space for yourself to breathe, reflect, and heal.

Being Still is Powerful

1. Gaining Clarity: When you’re constantly on the move physically and mentally, it’s easy to lose sight of what’s important. Stillness allows you to step back and see the bigger picture, to understand your feelings, and to recognize the path forward.
2. Processing Emotions: Divorce brings a whirlwind of emotions—grief, anger, sadness, fear. Being still gives you the time to acknowledge and process these feelings, rather than pushing them aside.
3. Reducing Stress: The physical act of slowing down and practicing stillness can significantly reduce stress. It helps calm your mind and body, lowering your heart rate and giving you a sense of peace.

How to Practice Stillness

1. Find a Quiet Space: Designate a spot in your home where you can retreat from the chaos. It could be a cozy corner with a comfortable chair, your favorite park bench, or even a warm bath.
2. Breathe: Focus on your breathing. Take slow, deep breaths. Inhale deeply through your nose, hold it for a moment, and exhale slowly through your mouth. This simple act can help center your thoughts and reduce anxiety.
3. Meditate: If you’re new to meditation, start with just a few minutes at a time. There are plenty of guided meditations available online that can help you get started. Meditation encourages mindfulness and helps you stay present.
4. Journal: Writing down your thoughts and feelings can be incredibly therapeutic. It’s a way to process what you’re going through and gain insights into your emotions.
5. Disconnect: Turn off your phone, step away from social media, and give yourself the gift of a break from the constant stream of information and opinions. This digital detox can help you focus on your own needs and feelings.

Benefits of Being Still

By incorporating stillness into your routine, you’ll find that you’re better equipped to handle the challenges that come your way. Stillness fosters resilience, helps you make more thoughtful decisions, and gives you the strength to move forward. Check out book one of the Steps Back to Me book series for more on being still.

Embrace Stillness on Your Journey

Remember, the aftermath of a divorce is not the end—it’s a new beginning. While it may not seem like it now, this can be a time of incredible growth and transformation. By embracing stillness, you’re giving yourself the gift of self-care and the opportunity to rebuild your life on your terms.

So, when hurricane divorce knocks you for a loop, anchor yourself in stillness. Embrace the calm in the storm, and you’ll find the strength and clarity to navigate through the turbulence. Your journey to healing and rediscovery starts with a single, powerful step: be still.